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Violence in the community often has devastating effects on men and women. Proliferation of guns, turf conflicts, gang activity and violent crime often lead to death of loved ones, particularly fathers, brothers and sons. Apart from the grief experienced by family members, women are often left with the additional burden of providing for the emotional, financial and physical needs of their families. 

The Hope Support Group (HSG) was formed in November 2006 in response to all the grief and pain being experienced by the women whose husbands, sons and brothers were being murdered within the urban communities of Trinidad and Tobago. The group is involved in planning and implementing programs and activities for the resolving of grief and the transforming of grief into positive action through facilitating mutual support, spiritual, educational, recreational and social activities and events. 

Through networking with other Community groups and NGO’s many of the women have received training and are actively taking the message of healing into schools and communities. 

As Hope Support Group prepares to celebrate it’s sixth anniversary, it now has a total of seven groups located in Port of Spain, San Fernando, Point Fortin, La Horquetta, Maloney, Couva, and Tobago. The groups have grown to include support for persons suffering tragic loss of health and support to persons whose relatives have committed suicide. HSG has also facilitated the start of groups for children who have suffered tragic loss; they meet in Morvant and Maloney twice monthly.

We have a right to be happy

Nalita Gajadhar works as a Programme Officer at the Bureau of Gender Affairs, Barbados. She is President of the Business and Professional Women’s Club which has been running a crisis hotline and shelter for women and children affected by domestic violence since 1986.  It is the only shelter in Barbados. 

CODE RED finally caught up with the Barbadian feminist activist, and with just five minutes to spare before returning to facilitate a Gender Sensitivity Training workshop, she shared her passion for saving and changing lives. 

How long have you been working against domestic violence?

About 30 years.

What keeps you going over 30 years? Where does the energy come from?

Because it really does save lives.  It’s about saving lives. It’s about helping people to understand a little more about the issues relating to violence.  It’s about clearing up the myths and the misconceptions. I had seen from a child the impact of domestic violence on family and society. Before there was a shelter or a notion of what a shelter was I grew up in a house where my mother made our home a shelter. Many a night you shared a bed with people in the community who ran from violence. My mother always opened the door to let the woman and the children in and she would stand at the door and face down the man who was racing after the woman.  So it was just something that I have lived. I guess I just continued to do it.  But I don’t do it the same way my mother did.  I do it through the [women’s] groups I have joined and the kind of advocacy that I do.

What are the challenges you face? How have they changed over the last 30 years?

I think at the beginning people were a little bit more compassionate even though they accepted violence as part of the norm.  Once you got them engaged they realised that they needed to do something about it.  It was a task to engage them because violence was seen as the norm. Today it is recognised more as a human right but in terms of getting people to commit the resources it is difficult.  To try to change things we need resources. We have the shelter, we have the advocacy programme but what we need is transitional housing. We need opportunities for people to be able to move away from that place of abuse and not have to deal so much with the economic challenge that sometimes keeps them in that place where they sometimes die. I don’t want people to believe that violence is only limited to people in a certain socio-economic bracket. It is not. But having the ability to move away from it, sometimes when you don’t have that you stay, and sometimes you die.

Looking towards the future, what is your dream for Caribbean women?

What is it that makes you happy? We should not always be fighting to do what our grandparents said to do, what our mothers said to do, what society says we should do. We need to find relationships where there is really love, where there is caring and where you find happiness.  Not sometimes, but all the time.  Even when the person is not with you, you are happy because you have the freedom to just be and to be happy.  If we could just believe that we have a right to be happy. I think that that would be exciting if I could just get Caribbean women to understand that.

Thanks for chatting with us, Nalita.  May a new generation of Caribbean feminists inherit your commitment, passion and energy!

To reach the Business and Professional Women’s Crisis Hotline, to get information on counselling , the shelter and other resources in Barbados for women experiencing intimate partner violence and domestic violence, please call 246-435-8222 

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Harassment is punishable by law!

A person who pursues a course of conduct which amounts to harassment of another and which he knows or ought reasonably to know amounts to harassment of the other is guilty of an offence and is liable on summary conviction to a fine of two thousand dollars and to imprisonment for six months.

The Offences Against the Person(Amemdment)(Harassment) Act (see source link, below, right)